Advice in the face of adversity

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Having read just hints of what some of us on the forum are currently dealing with I thought I'd start this thread.

Whether it be spiritual, emotional, physical or even financial crisis, what sort of tips and advice woukd you give those that are facing adversity?

Generally speaking use common sense and the resources around you. Don't be afraid to ask for help, try not to worry about things (it is counter productive), prioritise problems and then break them down into bitesize chunks then deal with them methodically, don't be afraid to walk away - not giving up is admirable but there are times when whatever you are doing will just get you knowhere and may even cause pain or harm so walk away.

I know this is bog standard stuff. Depending on the situation though, I'm sure we can all come up with more specific advice.

Talking of specific, from another thread when it comes to job hunting, interviews, networking, etc. I can offer advice and assistance. Just ask if you need any help.

Any other general advice everyone or even specific issues that you may feel others on the forum can help with?

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Mon Nov 05, 2007 6:24 am

Good advice Ook.
All I would say would be try to take a step back and relax. Know that whatever happens you can deal with it with the love and support of those around you. Smile

Don't be afriad to ask for help, that's what friends and family are there for. (and if they find out you're in trouble and you haven't told them, they usually get annoyed Mad

)
Also to help calm down i've always found the accupressue I learnt really helpful. Each finger represents an emotion and when trying to control or subdue that feeling you single hold the finger tightly while taking deep breaths.
Thumb- Worry
Index finder- Fear
Middle finger- Anger (no supprises there Finger

)
Ring finger- Saddness
Little finger- Frustration

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Mon Nov 05, 2007 7:53 am

oh, this is such a good ideda Ook!
I know i'll be using this thread a lot in the future =]
I never knew that mel! How cool! i'll remember that one!

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One problem I've got is my current assignment: I am creating a hotel/retreat for Pagan and New Ager's, and I need a name for it!!

Just thinking about asking because there are loads of creative people here!!

Logmadr...

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Mon Nov 05, 2007 12:18 pm

aontaigh- unite in gaelic
templum- Sanctuary in latin
If you don't like these then you can always find a website and translate you're perferred word till you find one that sounds right. Also if you don't like this idea at all, you can always think of one yourself like I have to! Razz

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I know have my name: I was talking to Kim (Aurora) and the name is Valhalla...
I just liked it, and, in my assignment, I even have a ~~made up~~ valid reason

jocolor

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Solvo Phasmatis wrote:: Each finger represents an emotion and when trying to control or subdue that feeling you single hold the finger tightly while taking deep breaths.
Thumb- Worry
Index finder- Fear
Middle finger- Anger (no supprises there )
Ring finger- Saddness
Little finger- Frustration

This is brilliant. Thanks! I do hand massages, and this is so good be aware of. Modest

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OOOPs a double post..... couldn't delete .... Bag

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A zen student is discouraged about his enlightenment and says so..... His Zen teacher replies... "Then find someone else who is discouraged, and encourage them...

"When you find yourself in a rut, encourage others and you will find that your path will open up again. If you spread good Karma onto others, you will reap a greater reward in return. Enlightenment. Therefore, when discouraged, encourage others." - Ancient Zen Philosopher, Grant Young 2007

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Tue Nov 06, 2007 2:57 am

Nice one Evie, that makes good sense. I'm always able to give advice to others but can never think of any for myself. scratch

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Tue Nov 06, 2007 3:16 am

You can only be what you give yourself the power to be- believe you can do it and your half way there already!
Worry solution- Have the courage to change what you can
the serenity to accept what you cannot change
and the wisdom to know the difference
(though of course this is easier said than done)

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I don't have any pearls of wisdom I may impart...

...

Except NEVER EAT YELLOW SNOW!!

jocolor

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Tue Nov 06, 2007 1:32 pm

Solvo Phasmatis wrote:: Ring finger- Saddness

my mum might agree with this

(joke!)

Witch

BB

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Hehehe Nice one Vamp!!

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:37 am

hehehe! Good one vampy...........
hang on logmadr, what do you mean! Yellow snow has added goodness I tell you, I been eating it all my life and it never did me any harm- apart from the destuction of every internal organ but eh, whatcha gunna do?

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 8:11 am

Evie - that advice is so practical and simple ... as Solvo says, it is easier to give advice to others than to oneself ... ask Logmadr about last Sunday!!!

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What happened last Sunday??

EDIT: Just remember ... I'm a douchebag...

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 11:34 am

Do I really need to remind you about my text? I must say you were brilliant, by the way!

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See, it's because of those sorts of situations that I want to be a counsellor or something: I like helping people: it's fulfilling, I mean, there aren't really any jobs where you can come home after a long days work and think "I really made that persons day, didn't I?"

Smile

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 3:52 pm

Logmadr wrote:: See, it's because of those sorts of situations that I want to be a counsellor or something: I like helping people: it's fulfilling, I mean, there aren't really any jobs where you can come home after a long days work and think "I really made that persons day, didn't I?"

Thats why ive considered a career in pyschology and taken it. I'm exactly the same, and apparently give the best advice, lol

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Not the best honey, the second best Wink

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 4:02 pm

as opposed to your third best advice, lol =P

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You wittyness does not amuse me dearest...

And I find sheep hilarious...

What does that say about your sense of humour?

Razz

Subject: Re: Advice in the face of adversity Fri Nov 09, 2007 4:07 pm

better than yours? lol!

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No sense of humour is better than mine...That is why I am the Forum Joker...

What, you think I wear these leggins for fun?!

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